Mindfulness brings us into the moment—what we are actually doing—and helps us to be less on autopilot. We can often find ourselves during the day flying off into an unknown future or visiting a past where we feel longing or regret. How do we feel if we go off into the future? Most people tell me they feel a sense of anxiety.
Our ability to focus and to stay present is a power of our mental fitness. As George Lucas says, “Your focus determines your reality.” So what is your reality? What is our reality? What are we focusing on? When we worry about a future that hasn’t happened, it is a survival mechanism that has been inbuilt in us for thousands of years—hunting, gathering, and remembering particular terrain.
There was a wild beast that could have taken my life. I have a memory. I recall that memory. I play it over and over again—what I did, what worked, what didn’t work, what I could have done differently. Then, when going into that terrain again, I think about what to expect. This anxiety and rumination served us well as a human race and kept us alive. But in this modern-day culture, is it really serving us that well? The prevalence of ill mental health is skyrocketing.
More and more, we need to bring ourselves into this moment, where it’s happy, calm, and peaceful. Yet, we fly off again like time travelers into the future and the past. We don’t have to fear as much as we used to as hunter-gatherers, and yet we do. We have the same stress responses over small things.
We don’t have to fight for survival as we used to. We can live a better life, a happier existence in the now by being present. We are able to take the next leap in our evolution—to really feel what happiness could look like. It’s exciting times.
Our modern-day living is hurting our minds. Our ancestors never had so many constant digital distractions. Nearly half of the world’s population will experience ill mental health at some stage of their lives. Conditions such as anxiety, bipolar disorder, burnout, depression, substance abuse, obsessive-compulsive disorder, sleeping disorders, and abusive disorders have dramatically increased.
Our self-care routines, when we take breaks from work, often consist of social media, watching the news, and binge-watching TV. Social media is designed to keep us entertained and stimulated. It’s a little dopamine house of lux, feeding us things we love. Dopamine, the feel-good chemical, is released for these activities, and we get addicted. We really are addicted to dopamine.
Gloria Mark from the University of California says that our attention is dying. Two hours of every day are spent in distraction or recovering from distraction, with every 11 minutes bringing a new distraction. Ellen Langer from Harvard University says that we are on autopilot for 47% of our day—constantly traveling into the future or the past.
Ellen Langer goes on to say that much of our suffering comes from our struggle to be present. We find it very difficult to be in the moment. Yet, things are good here in the now. They’re okay. But if we’re living on autopilot, these distractions become our new mental health threat. As our attention spans deteriorate, so does our mental wellness.
Meta-attention versus subjective mind—meta-awareness is our ability to watch our mind move and then encourage our attention to return. “Come back, attention,” like calling a little puppy dog. This is the active ingredient that actually increases the prefrontal cortex.
Yes, it grows your brain. The functions of the executive front of our prefrontal cortex include attention, motivation, working memory, reasoning, overcoming ingrained behavior patterns, dealing with novel situations, decision-making, error correction, troubleshooting, task flexibility, planning, execution, flexibility of thinking, concept formation, abstract thinking, and creativity. These are what make us human beings.
I have noticed in my work with brain-damaged patients how these functions are lacking or don’t work anymore. My sister is a neuro-occupational therapist, and she has clients with head injuries where these functions are impaired. It’s obvious.